Love and Heartbreak: Navigating Valentine's Day Emotions

If this image portrays your Valentine's Day mood, this post may be for you.

I never write about anything I haven’t experienced. While I learned a lot about the human condition while studying human development, family science, and psychology at OSU, I learned A LOT more about those subjects by living as a human being and living through a lot. For someone who hasn’t yet reached 30, I believe I have experienced more than most. This is why I can write about it and y’all can know that it’s coming from the heart. I don’t give cookie-cutter answers that come from a psychology textbook. Truthfully, I don’t even remember those answers because I didn’t pay enough attention during psych classes (I was too busy daydreaming about catching big fish!) Anyway, point being, I’m sharing my heart to hopefully encourage someone else who is going through what I’ve been through. Today is Valentines Day. But, I’m sure most of you already were reminded of that, either by a partner who loves you, or maybe by one who knows that they need to say it today because that’s what you say on a holiday about love. Or maybe, you were reminded because you feel the void of loneliness that comes with remembering that you are alone on a day where the whole world boasts about their perfect relationship (is it really perfect or do we just like to showcase the highlights reel online because that’s what people do on V-day?) Regardless, this holiday can be more challenging than beautiful, for many.

Maybe you lost someone, and today is a reminder of how the story ended too soon and now there’s a big hole in your heart. Maybe you have someone, but they don’t treat you right, and your heart is breaking because having someone who doesn’t value you is worse than not having anyone at all. If any of these are true, I am here to remind you that its okay to cry. It’s okay to feel the feels. It’s okay to stay off social media because it hurts too much to see everyone showing off their person. I’m here to say this: if today brings up old hurts, the times you weren’t loved right, it’s perfectly fine to hide in your room and cry. It’s even okay to eat chocolates and binge a sad show, bawling out your eyes and telling yourself you are ridiculous. (You’re not). This is a hard day for many. You are seen. You are loved. You are held. The tears are NORMAL. The sadness is part of the healing. Tears are an actual release, a physical cleansing that can clear out blockages to love and healing. Let me tell you something else. If you are sad today because you are alone, it means you’re honest. You are HUMAN and healthy human hearts bleed sometimes. Not feeling anything just means you’re lying. So go ahead. FEEL IT. CRY IT OUT. Let those tears flow. After you do, I want to remind you of a few truths that aren’t said enough:

~Real love is about more than a day on the calendar.

~Valentines’ day is more about making money, than about sharing true love. Marketing strategies are great, but remember that’s all this is. Love is an action, a daily choice.

~Many of those people showing off their partner actually hate their relationship. They feel pressure to post so as not to make their person mad. Is that truly what you envy??

~Lots of them are also cheating on their partner. Rarely any of it is true love.

~Even the truly happy ones felt how you feel, at one point. Lots of them didn’t believe in love, until they found their person, probably when they were least expecting it.

~Chocolate is actually really good for you!

~Social media is a big lie. The really content couples don’t need to log on just to show off their person. They’re probably too busy making out (or doing other stuff…) anyway!!

If this has resonated, I invite you to check out my book, I Swiped Left Again. This book is for the woman who has been hurt, the one who has hung on to the non-committed partner, or the one who doesn’t know how to find real love. This book is for the woman who has experienced a soul connection, an abusive relationship, a divorce, judgmental friend group who kept on telling her that if she followed a formula, she would meet Mr. Right, and finally, for the woman who wants to choose herself from now on.

Alternatively, if you are the one who is staying because you are afraid of what is on the other side of leaving an unhappy situation, my book Becoming Strength is for you. Remember how I said I’ve been through all of it? Yeah, this is my own story. I really meant that.

Finally, if you are interested in doing energy healing or want to understand what is blocking you from real love, I can help you with a 1-1 session. Fill out the contact me form here and let me know you want to book a session.

I am sending each and every one of you so much DIVINE LOVE today.

-S